Grief lives here.
So does loss and pain and hurt.
So does joy and happiness and love so deep it’s bottomless.
As deep as the grief that fills me at times…like it is today.
Days when the months and years that have passed feel too short to have healed anything.
Days when it feels like time has not softened the edges of loss at all.
Days when the sadness and the heaviness weighs more than I think I can bear…again.
Days when the tears that are usually now further away are so close.
Moments when the only thoughts that fills my mind are the incredulous realities of loss.
Hours that are filled with memories I don’t want to see in my mind because of the hurt.
Nights when tears come hard and feel like they’ll never end…again.
The grief sometimes demands and takes center stage.
A life of its own and unable to be held in check or tempered when it comes.
It takes over, consuming and depleting me as it does. I tread water, holding my breath as the waves slam me. Trusting that I’ll rise up and that this will pass…again.
The truth is that now, unlike even a year ago, grief is not the dominant emotion for me anymore. Even though some days, like today, it feels like it is – I know that it has changed.
Yes, grief lives here, but so does so much more – again. Being able to see that truth is proof that I am more than the hurt and the pain … no matter how much I question that at times like today.